bachelorette
Hey ladies,
One of my bridesmaids and I were hanging out last night and she asked me what my thoughts were on the bachelorette party. She is part of the club scene in Boston and Providence and knows that that is really not my thing. But I didn't really know what to tell her. I don't go out to many bars anymore, just some neighborhood ones. I don't want anyone spending $200 on a limo or hotel room. I told her that. Any ideas on what to do? Thanks!
posted by Anonymous @ 8:35 AM
5 Comments:
Hmmm tough one. On one hand you aren't into the party scene and dread that kind of evening...(the kind where inevitably someone has to pee along side the road). But, on the other hand you don't want to alienate your entire bridal party! Could you maybe suggest a bridal shower instead? You can all get together, and it doesn't have to be "boring". You can have some wine on hand or something low key. I wouldn't use the "oh a night out will cost too much, limo etc." because they may just say, "oh we want to spend the money, it's okay!" and then you're stuck with party central anyways. I guess if worse comes to worse and it turns into a club scene, do your best to have fun. Drink as much or as little as you want.
Andrea is this Sarah you are talking about? Hahaha she is such a party girl! Everyone has different styles and I think you should just be honest with her. Suggest doing something everyone can enjoy. =)
My BM and I were on the T Saturday, and this girl got on carrying her cake from Sweet n Nasty and her bag full of penis paraphernalia (you could see through the bag), and we immediately gave each other that knowing look! (Btw- more power to ya and have a blast if you are gung-ho for this kind of bachelorette; it's just not my own style)
Although I know they know me well, I straight up told my MOH and BM what kind of bachelorette/shower I'd like and not like :) I'm not into the party scene so much either... when I stopped being 23, but everyone else in the bar stayed that age, I knew it wasn't the place for me anymore!
So we're doing something chill during the day... going to Lill to make bags or possibly to a spa or the pottery painting place. Then we'll probably head to dinner and the Improv Asylum, which I love, and if we're not all dead tired, perhaps to the Top of the Hub, which is gorgeous and classy and not actually more expensive than most other bars.
I call it my unshower/unbachelorette. I didn't think they'd plan anything crazy for me for a b-ette, but I didn't want them to throw me a shower. I'm not putting my girlfriends through my regular showers (they're also both a ways from Boston anyway), and I told my MOH and BM who are in charge of this exactly what gifts I'd like (gift certificates to pictage.com, which my photographer uses), in case anyone asks.
So I guess through my long-winded description what I'm saying is it's okay to be direct :) Who wants to attend a party in one's honor that you wouldn't choose to go to if you were just an invited guest, you know?
And actually, I think Amy's bachelorette sounds just awesome! Can I come?! ;)
Unfortunately it was this past weekend, and it was awesome. this is exactly what we did. 4 of us left thursday morning, got up to the cabin, cracked open some beers and treked the 20 paces to the beach. We went out to dinner that night. By the next night we had 6 more girls show up and did cooking on the grill, salads, that sort of thing. By saturday night one girl had to leave and another came up. We did some more grill cooking, as well as ordered some lobsters from the guy who owns the cabins and incidentally sells them!! There are 3 things I truly love next to my FI of course; Eating, beer, and chilling! We didn't have to go anywhere if we didn't want to, but if we did there were a few local bars (not clubs!!) around. And even though I am not supposed to know how much it cost everyone. My MOH paid for everything (cabins, food, beer), and I saw her list of it broken down according to how many nights each person stayed. The 3 that stayed with me owed 70 each for everything aside from the dinner they paid for. All the others that stayed 2 nights paid like 34 and I think she took a 20 from the people that stayed for 1 night. It was a bit of a hike, but no one complain, otherwise they just wouldn't have come up, and everyone said what a great weekend they had! It really was fun, but that is what I like to do. If you like spa days...do something like that, paintball, foxwoods, Beach, lake. I am sure if you have enough planning at least a few friends/family will be able to spend a weekend with you! Good Luck!
Just another note. I went to a bachelorette party in June, for dinner and clubbing in boston. I spent 30 bucks for dinner, then almost 175 bucks for the limo and drinks in town. That was for 4 hours, vs. 70 bucks for a 3 day weekend.
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