I'm freaking out
Cara and Jennifer,
Thanks for reminding me that there is a light at the end of the tunnel because for the past week, my stress level has been through the roof.
My work is switching programs and they decided to refuse vacation time Febthrough the end of April. I have two more trips planned before the wedding, one in Feb amd the big one in April. I managed to get the one in Feb approved but at this time, they are denying the April one. In April, I have scheduled the food tasting (which only occurs 1st Wed of every month), 2nd dress fitiing, meeting with vendors that my mom arranged, and most importantly, getting the marriage license. THis trip is coordinated with my mother's vacation from the school she works for. This has been planned for months and now they are denying that I can leave because we have to learn a new system. It does not take 3 months to learn a new program, I am sorry but it doesn't. I am so upset that I have a stomach ache. My supervisor would sign off, it's just the higher ups that feel that they can not make an exception for me.
Also, my FI was weak and told two differnt people that they can bring babis to the wedding, when we agreed that they won't. I told him that he has to straighten it out and he feels like we shouldn't allow my young cousins then. My parents are paying for the wedding and I feel like it is appropriate for my close relatives to be there. However, I don not think that means it is okay for everyone to bring their offspring.
Sorry for the vent but I am losing it.
posted by Sarah @ 12:54 PM
5 Comments:
Oh Sarah! I feel so bad for you! :( Work stinks. Really. I know this might be painful, but can you work with your boss to take unpaid days if they won't approve your vacation? Perhaps you can discuss having the superiors give you a "test" on the new system- if you pass it before your planned April vacation, maybe they will then agree to give you an exception? As a last resort, I know it might be cutting it close, but maybe you can go the first week of May if you can't work anything out for April? It wouldn't coordinate with your mom's vacation, and having been a teacher, I hate advocating this but know it's sometimes what you have to do- maybe she could take a sick day one of the days and you can schedule say your dress fitting for later afternoon (after school ends).
As for the kids, you're right. Family is different from friends, and should be every single time. You can invite your young family members and not your friends' kids because they're family. No one will question that, and if they do, they have no manners and no priorities. None of our friends (or family members for that matter) brought their kids, and absolutely everyone had to travel. One couple coming from CO did bring their baby daughter with them- I welcomed her at the rehearsal dinner, and then helped the couple find a babysitter for the day of the wedding. Let me tell you how much they enjoyed a night to themselves!!
Good luck sweetie, and keep us posted!!
They just told me that I can not have time off from Feb 12-April15. I can't stop crying at my desk today.
Oh Sarah,
Please don't cry. I am sorry that I don't remember all the specifics of your wedding. I know it is May. But is there anything that we can do to help? Even if we just get you tipsy so you can forget about the planning for a few hours! J/K (sort of). Seriously if there is anything you need to get done around here that we can help with, I will gladly volunteer my time. Work sucks sometimes and really gets in the way of your plannig. But don't stress, everything will work out and everything will get done one way or another, don't be afraid to ask for help WHERE EVER you can get it! I kept trying to do everything on my own and finally started to realize I was running out of time, and started enlisting anybody and everybody's help to get things done!
Oh! Don't cry. I know how we can help- you can quit your crappy job and we'll all help you find a less crappy one. Or, I can call and pretend to be your sister informing you of a family emergency on April 10th....
Thanks everyone for your feedback and support. My boss is cool, it's just the upper management that has no souls and they have been treating us social workers like they own us. THeir new rules have affected many of us. My boss said that he will try to help and that I should make my plans as I need to. I guess worse come to worse, I might fall ill on the exact three days I need off. What a coincidence?
thanks for the help and I'll keep you all updated incase I get fired for leaving 2.5 days on "sick days".
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