Chin Up, Tammy

Tammy,

I'm sorry to hear about your job. I certainly sympathize as I type this in my office filled with boxes. Next Wednesday is my last day, and I have no plans for the future. (Well, at least as far as a job is concerned.) Losing your job does suck, but try not to let it get you down too much. Focus on the future, especially what you want to do with your life. Don't dwell on the past, and what you don't have (like an education. Hey, I have a graduate degree, and I'm still as unemployed as you are at the end of the day, and I anticipate that it will take me at least 6 months to find another job given the legal market.) There are options for you. Go back to school, even part-time. It's not too late. It's easy to get caught up in the day-to-day grind. Use this opportunity to maybe change the direction of your life.

You just need to stay in the right frame of mind. You are engaged. Enjoy being engaged. Don't think about the wedding right now. You'll just drive yourself crazy. My brother and his wife were engaged for 2.5 years while they sorted out their respective futures. They've now been married for 5 years, bought a house and have a beautiful little girl. Everything will happen for you in it's own time.

Is there any way you can find something else in Fidelity? It might be easier to switch jobs while your still employed there. While this won't get you benefits right away, I would recommend temping if you don't find anything. I got my current job after temping here for a couple of months (even attorneys temp ;-) The good thing about temping is you can leave if you don't like the position.