Seating probs...
So I have two seating situations (not that I have actually started the seating chart)
1. Divorced couple with 2 adult children attending, each parent is bringing a date. The woman (one of my mom's oldest friends) came up to me after I had been in my shower for about 10 minutes, asks me where do I plan on seating her, she needs to sit apart from divorced husband and with both kids. A little demanding, huh. I was thinking to sit one son with his mom and the other with his dad at separate tables. Would that be terrible???
2. Tables are for 8 or 10. We each have bridal parties of 6. Chris and I will be sitting at a sweetheart table; bridesmaids and groomsmen will be seating in groups with their dates. MOH and 1 bridesmaid will not be bringing dates. Another bridesmaid is FI of BM. So that leaves 9 at my table. But that makes 11 at groomsmen table (one GM will not be bringing a date.
11's too squished, no?
Chris' idea was to put the single groomsman with the ladies!
Any ideas?
posted by Anonymous @ 4:22 PM
3 Comments:
I actually had to write this down to figure it out, but it would be 11 at one table (GM, including the BM fiance) and 8 at the other (BM), not 9. Regardless, 11 is too many :) BUT, if you sat the Best Man at the table with the other BMs and his fiance, that would put you at tables of 10 and 9. If you seat the single GM with the BMs, it would also work out to 10 and 9, either of which is good. Does the single GM know any of the BM's dates or is there set-up potential with the single BM or MOH? Otherwise, if he has any other friends coming or family, I think you can seat him with them instead of with the bridal party, as long as he'd understand that it wasn't a slight.
For the divorced couple, I don't know. The kids are adults, you said- are they bringing dates? If so, I think it would be fine to sit one kid+date with each parent. If they're not bringing dates, I guess I would be more inclined to seat the brothers together, with one or neither parent, unless they know no one else. (And I hate seating demands like that. Not seating her with her ex-husband is a reasonable request, but demanding that both children be seated with her is a little much.)
Keep us posted on what you do!
I have only tables of 8 and it's already stressing me out. It seems to leave a lot of random 2-4 people, in the little bits of table assiging I've thought about.
You can have a random table, I had a few groups of people that only added up to 4/4/3 so I sat them all at a table for 12. Does the divorced woman have other "couple friends" there, are there other people around the sons age they know. with my neighborhood family friends, I put all the "adults" at one table, and the "kids" (they are all in the 20's and 30's now) at another. They liked it because the kids that grew up together got to catch up with each other, and so did the parents. Is this an option for this divorced couple? Sorry just rambling off different scenarios going through my head.
Hi Andrea.
I don't know if you've solved this yet, but here's what I did. I scattered the bridal party. For instance, my MOH sat with her fiance, his mother, and mutual friends. My brother (GM) and sister-in-law (BM) sat with her mother, my other brother, and some cousins. The flower girls sat with their parents (not in the wedding) and one BM (single, and college friends with the other people at the table.) To make things work, I had to think outside the box sometimes. For instance, I invited the parents of my college friends. Rather than sit the parents and the kids at the same table, I put the parents together at a table and my college friends, their spouses and kids at another. They loved it. They all kept commenting on being at the "kids" table.
As far as the divorced couple, I sympathize. I had a woman not speaking with her brother-in-law, because he dumped her sister for a younger woman, and he of course is bringing the younger woman to the wedding. I had to seat them at opposite ends of the room. To make that work, we didn't have a Withrow side or a Proia side of the room, (which everyone loved, because it made people leave their table/area and go talk to someone.) If they met on the dance floor, not my problem. If they made a scene they'd be asked to leave. There were no fireworks.
In this case, do what make sense to you. You cannot please everyone. They are adults and hopefully will behave accordingly. If you get bogged down in all of these details, you'll drive yourself crazy. There's WAY too many other things to do.
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